Subscriber Account active since. Losing your virginity is a big deal. It's not uncommon to have all sorts of romantic and exciting fantasies of how your first time will play out. But for most people, the reality is that their first time having sex was less than perfect. It makes sense that with lack of experience, nerves, and some pretty skewed views of what sex actually looks like, that people's first times are usually not so great or not what they expected. Reddit users shared some of their awkward, funny, and downright embarrassing stories about losing their virginity.
My First Time Having Sex Was Just The Way I Planned It, Nothing Special At All
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Thanks to thee unrealistic standards constantly portrayed in media , we've all built up this imaginary idea of what sex is supposed to be like. Some people expect a romantic night of candles and passion, while others think it will be the most pleasure they've ever felt in their whole life. But the truth is, everyone's experience is different. Sometimes it's smooth and romantic and lives up to your expectations, while other times, it's kind of terrible. But no matter how old you are or what the circumstances are, having sex for the first time can feel like a huge deal! So, to give you a better idea about what your first time may be like, we talked to 43 girls about the first time they had sex — how they knew they were ready, who they did it with, and how they felt afterward. I think I would have enjoyed it more if he had checked in with me to see if my needs were being met, which they weren't.
First-Time Sex: 20 Questions About Losing Your Virginity, Answered
That said, it may help to explore some of your own needs and wants via a one-on-one session with yourself prior to engaging in partnered sex more on that later. But, basically: Relax, breathe, and take it all in stride. The best thing you can do before you have sex for the first time: masturbate.
Once it is gone, soiled, it can never be pure again. I had been waiting for quite some time but I was shy and studious, and all throughout high school and college having a boyfriend was the furthest thing from my mind. In fact, I had only gone on a handful of first dates before I decided that enough was enough. It was time to have sex. The night that it happened was easy and safe.